Valentine’s Day sells the highlight reel.
Flowers. Candles. Perfect photos.
But love isn’t a highlight. It’s a transformation.
As Carl Jung said:
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there is any reaction, both are transformed."
Real love changes you. Because if nothing changes… nothing happened.
Sadhguru puts it even more bluntly:
“You claim that you love somebody, but if they don’t fulfil your needs, you won’t love them. I don’t call this love.”
And Neil Strauss adds:
“Those who cannot trust, control.”
Control isn’t love. Love is growth.
Marriage, like any great story, is a hero’s journey.
It moves through six phases.
Most people quit at stage three.
The dream phase
you imagine a perfect life together
The truth phase
flaws, habits, scars show up
The struggle phase
this isn’t what I expected
The growth phase
you stop controlling & start understanding
The real love phase
you’ve faced storms together
The legacy phase
you become an example for others
The couples who last aren’t lucky.
They stay.
The amount of good in your life depends on your ability to see it.
And what could be better than
choosing one person…
embracing their flaws…
and letting the relationship shape you into someone better?
Expect nothing. Appreciate everything.
Have a great Monday!
and a beautiful
Valentine’s week.
